Hi all! I wanted to share with you some pics from our own Engagement party last month. It was a traditional Vietnamese Tea Ceremony… intimate in the sense that we were barely able to squeeze family and our bridal party into my mom’s house.
Dinh Hon means… Engagement Celebration. I’ve seen tissue pomanders everywhere and couldn’t wait for a chance to make some! So fun!
Tradition calls for the Groom’s side to rally up at his family home, before the procession to the Bride’s family home to ask for her hand in marriage. They’re like his entourage… support group… posse. Serious stuff. They come with the traditional red trays that hold gifts of tea, cookies, fruit.. oh, and a full on roast pig. The atmosphere at the Bride’s home is full of excitement and anxiety as they prepare the house to host the party. Talk about nerves. I had to stay in my mom’s bedroom while everyone arrived, and the families formally introduced the key players via chosen representative. I got to peek my ear out the door in the hallway though 😉
Our ‘first look’ as an almost engaged couple. I love these 2 shots Kim took… a great pairing.
Lots of applause. After N presents me with the ring, a very special tradition takes place… N’s mom gifts me with a pair of earrings. This is her ‘claim’ that I am now spoken for. In Viet Nam, ladies who wear studs are taken, while the younger / single ladies wear dangly earrings. Both mothers wear the earrings for me at the same time. And my mom also gifts me with a necklace… an heirloom of hers. I’m not going to lie… I sure love this tradition! By the way, the women in my family are wearing Ao Dai’s, traditional dresses (that have pants)… my mom’s is my absolute favorite. It is like a painting / watercolor… so bright and cheery, but still very elegant. It really fits her personality.
On with more traditions!
I love this pic of us below:
I was blessed to grow up in a large family… lots of laughter, fun, and ruckus. Wouldn’t trade that in for anything. And in recent years we’ve had little people show up in our family to create more laughter, fun and ruckus :D. N’s family is not so rowdy but I love them just the same.
Hope you enjoyed that little splash of color! I have to really thank my momma, who orchestrated this entire celebration… and N’s family for being so happily willing to participate in our culture. My family for alllll their help. Kim Nakashima, so so much for diving in the midst of my crazy family to take photos. Tiffany for doing my hair and make up. N for asking me to marry him. What a lucky girl I am…
Photos are by Kim Nakashima (with some from my brother RKN as well). Please let me know if you’d like to get any of their information!